Sleep deprived

How to deal with sleepless nights.

Well I have been having a problem getting my 7 month old to sleep all night. As I breastfeeding he still feeds atleast twice a night although for the last two nights I have been letting him ' cry it out' ..
It was easy with my first. When she was 6month old I was told by the health visitor that once she's on solids she doesn't need to wake up at night for a feed and if she does its out of habit. So as head strong as I was then, I was desperate for my sleep , desperate for my 8 hours ' beauty ' sleep!! So I set off on this journey of ' controlled crying' . I let my daughter at 6 months, cry at night .. Initially, the first night she cried for 50 mins..it was the most hardest thing I have had to do. But I was so determined and steadfast. I was not going to let a 6 month old 'rule the roost' as my health visitor said. So I carried on and the next night she cried for 30 mins and then 25 mins and then 10 mins and that was it. She's been sleeping 7am-7pm /8am-8pm since then. I triumphed. I succeeded . I got my sleep. But with bloody hard work, determination , ear plugs and crying my eyes out!! At that time I felt like an awful mother, a failure, I felt like I deprived
My child of the cuddles and comfort she needed at that time in her life. But I made sure I made up for it in the day time. Now.. I feel it was the best thing I did. She's got great sleeping habits. She sleeps in the dark on her own in her own bed. She falls asleep on her own too. My beautiful little girl.
However... With my boy 7 month old. It's a different story. He's bigger than she was at 7 months. He eats more and drinks more. He weighs more. I just don't know what to do. I'm craving sleep. I'm shattered everyday and cranky with everyone that comes in my way on a morning. And that's mostly my toddler , my 2 year old.
I have tried the 'controlled crying method' but I seem to give up this time. I worry about my daughters sleep getting disturbed, and the sounds of his cry are heart aching. He seems to have a firmer hold on me than my daughter. I hate it. He definitely 'rules the roost' in my home. I am still going to persevere with the controlled crying method.. I have to detach myself with him during the night. I will just have to make it up during the day. My beautiful baby boy.
Have you had a problem with sleep?
Any ideas will be greatly appreciated.

Let it snow let it snow let it snow

On the forecast for this week and on the news , it so seemed everyone was going into some sort of melt down because of the disastrous weather to come. Snow. A little bit of snow.
Now come on .. It's not snow like it used to be in those days. I remember it coming up to the knees. Oh how exciting were those days. We played outside for hours building igloos and snow mans and having snowball fights with anyone and everyone. Nowadays.. A little bit of snow brings everyone to a halt! And dare I say, myself.
I have been trying to persuade myself to go out and build a snow man .. Well.. I want to build a snow woman. But the amount of effort and time it takes to dress the toddler up just makes me want to forget the whole thing. I mean.. Ok this is what I mean. FINDING warm clothes and fighting with her Everytime to put her clothes on ... Screaming because she doesn't want to wear the trousers I have got her or she doesn't want to wear the cardigan because its white and she doesn't want to wear yellow knickers and can't find the same pair of socks!!then is the hat and the gloves and the scarfe and the wellies!! See.. A nightmare!!! So I give up!!!! It's so much easier than fighting with her and then preparing for a temper outburst which in turn ends the ripple effect across the household.... Baby starts crying .. I start getting stressed. So what do I do again . Lock myself up in the toilet.

Have a good snow day or snow week. Don't give up. LIKE I HAVE.

Dream a little dream- poem

For me Motherhood once was a distant dream,
In reality it has been a scream,
For children are really lovely you know,
But drive you up the wall for sure,
Play gyms, surestarts and coffes we go,
To escape the insanity the children throw,
A sign of gratitude, you will not see,
Instead outbursts, a yelp and me me me.
Lunchtime proves a new challenge,
Like feeding her, she thinks is revenge,
Tick tick tick, I hear the clocks go,
All day I wait for bedtime galore,
Put on the pyjamas and read a book,
Clean your teeth, lets have a look,
Woohoo 7.30 strikes the clock,
Upstairs we go, in bed we dock,
Say a prayer, I want ice cream she says,
close your eyes and dream a little dream.
Aah,a cup of tea sounds a treat
Sit on the couch, knocked off to sleep.

Fabtastic mummeee

Sick of sick

Sick
What a week it's been. So from my last post I wished it be a merry week. well, was a horrid week and when I say horrid I mean the most horrid of horrids. I woke up on Monday morning with screaming 'mumeeeeeeee' screech. Rushed to Lizzie's bedroom and she was covered in sick. Looked like the supper from night before. So I thought Urgh.
Carried her into the shower and then prepared myself to clean up the mess. I was grateful that baby had not contracted whatever disgusting bug Lizzi had.
Spoke too soon? Yep. So after a few hours baby vomited all his breakfast.. Weetabix and banana was clearly seen. What fun. Wiped him down, clean vest and baby grow and scrubbed the carpet. Anybody Have any ideas on how to get rid of vomit stains on carpets?!.
All three rooms have been christened with vomit. Over and over again. This carried on for two days. Today however ,has not been so bad. Wednesdays ohh glorious Wednesdays. My two and half year old goes to nursery on Wednesdays and I try to cherish every moment. ( I say try.. Because most times I end up cleaning)
Sent her into nursery today as she woke up perfectly fine. No vomit.
Baby has been fine too today . Actually ate his three meals and kept it in. No nasty surprises.
Surprises. Well my laundry has piled
Up again. And today that's what I did. 'Cherish every moment... 'in another life maybe. Wednesday is normally
Laundry day. So I have tried to keep on top of it.. When I say 'on top' of it I mean 'on top.' Was a growing pile and obscured the view out to the front yard!! Lost sunlight and much needed vitamin D because of the damn laundry.

Sleep
As imagined have not had more than 2 hours sleep continuously .. So feeling like a real zombie walking around.. No doubt I will be woken up at 7 am by toddler trying to climb onto the bed.

Oh please ..give me an extra hour in bed.

Polly please put the kettle on

Inspiration. Trying to find some kind of inspiration to write the next post has proven to be a difficult task. I'm looking for inspiration in a pooey nappy!! Not going to find anything there unless I have given baby something Interesting to eat.
However after plenty of thought and rethought I decided the words will just flow. Just get down to it woman she said to herself.

Every new year I am sure plenty of people make a New Years resolution.. I didn't have one last year probably because I was pregnant and knew what was to come.
Well this year..NOPE to pregnancy and YES to keeping fit. Yes I know you have heard that one many a times from many a people. Actually I was booked into a Zumba class this morning 9.30 am! I decided to cancel. Already let myself down. I mean I haven't managed to get myself and kids ready and given breakfast for 9 am yet! What am I going to do when I go back to work. I will have to wake up like 5.30am to get out of the house for 7.30am. That's just crazy. Why on earth would I put myself through that. Why on earth does ANYONE put themselves through that.
Sanity I guess. That is why I will do it. And the money. What needs to be done will have to be done.

I have finally had time to get back to
Blogging, been a Busy few days as hubby had the ' man flu' . You know what that's like!!! And I had My sister come over with her twins.. 3 year olds mixed with my 2 year old and a baby. It really is madness. My sister is a bit of a clean freak and I say she has an OCD in cleaning. She will be picking Up crumbs and toys after the kids All day and sweeping up the food bits and biscuits and crisps that have landed on the floor..she does this at her house and My house too whilst I play with the girls, I really Don't understand Why she does it because they just make the mess again... And again, and she will keep picking up and up. Anyway you get the Gist. So I am a happy today as
My Kitchen and living room is nice and clean compliments to my sister! Wish she could stay some More and maybe do the bedrooms. As you may have imagined I am not the cleanest of people. I keep the house clean but I am not overly obsessed with cleaning and I don't mind leaving it a mess. My priority on a morning is to get the kids dressed, breaky , myself dressed and breaky if time. And leave the house. Then When I come home I feel like I can face the housework. Bring it on suckers.

Sleep. What's that?
So I remember telling you we have moved Lizzi into her new bed. Well the first night was awful. Had a terrible night as baby Ray slept in the cotbed and it was new to him so he cried and woke up many times. Lizzi however, decided as she could now get out of bed (something she couldn't do from the cotbed) she decided to wander. 4 times that night she came into my room wide awake. Which again woke the baby up. So as you can imagine it was just a horrid night. Woke up grumpy the next morning. It has been three days now Lizzi has been in her new bed and I must say last night she didn't wake up at all so yes there is light at the end of the tunnel. However, as baby Ray has caught a cold from man flu dad... He was up most of the night crying for milk feeds and cuddles. So again a hat trick of grumpiness from me. Plus cold from man flu dad. Not a good combination.

Lets hope the next week brings in the sunshine. I was told its snow.

Motherhood jabberwocky

Hello ladies, I am breastfeeding AGAIN and thought I should have a go at writing another post. So get your cuppas and a biscuit..( go on treat yourself.)
So I have been have been thinking about going back to work in May. By the time June comes round I will have done a year of maternity.. It's been a real roller coaster of a ride during my maternity leave ..Settling in with a new baby and a toddler.. Toddler tantrums. Jealousy. Breastfeeding, and sleepless nights.. Oh will I be glad to go back to work. Or not. It's definitely a big step going back to work leaving a baby at a private nursery. I would rather leave the kids with my mum but my mum works herself so really that's not feasible.
It definitely is good for the kids to go to nursery as they learn independence and social skills. They pick up so much just being with other children.. Not all good things I should say but nevertheless they learn. It also gives us time too to get back into the world of work and to have adult conversations..to be someone else not just mummies, Challenge and stimulate the mind and of course for your own peace and sanity.
Lets see if I say that once I am there.
Eeeek.. I will have to start freezing food.
Don't want to think about work anymore.

Motherhood really is such a lovely experience and truly hard work. It is a full time job and you don't get paid for it except in love and cuddles. And yes, there are night shifts Involved with no shift allowance.. And no breaks unfortunately, unless you are lucky and the kids are napping. But then you'l probably end up cleaning or cooking when they are napping.. That's what I do .. Or the laundry. Which reminds me my laundry has piled up so high.. Really needs Shifting.
Isn't it the most annoying thing when you go to supermarkets and you try to find a space in the 'parent and child' parking bays.. But guess what they have all been taken.. And it pisses me off to the max when people who don't have children park in the ' parent and child ' parking bays.. That really ruins my day. Ok rant over. Guess its all part of motherhood or should I say parent hood because let's face it even though the mothers do the majority of the work relating to the children, fathers also have a responsibility.

Oh tantrums tantrums.. How to deal..I have tried all different types of sanctions you name it I have tried it! They just don't work or Maybe because I'm not
Consistent enough. Bloody consistency. I just end up locking Myself in the bathroom until its all over.. Yes I know crazy. Or maybe anxiety? Or just because I want to be selfish for Once.. Go on try it.. Be selfish. Makes you feel a whole Lot better... Ok Stop.

Today has been a busy day. Wednesdays
Normally are as Lizzi goes to nursery on Wednesdays. She goes ALL day which leaves me to just attend to Ray. We have finally moved the Cotbed into our room and replaced it with a bed in Lizzi's room. So the picture you will see is alittle bit of shuffling about and tidying. Tonight is going to be the first night Lizzi sleeps in the bed.. Going to be interesting. I will probably be waking up a zillion times or
Not sleeping as I'm terrified she's going to fall off the bed! Well as hubby says.. 'We never fell off beds!!' So I should give her a chance before I go out to buy a bed rail.

Oh things we do for our children..

A good read for u mummies to be out there.
http://babyandbump.momtastic.com/pregnancy-third-trimester/1064031-letter-bump-mum.html

I really do hope 2013 is going
To bring joy into the world. There is just not Enough of it. Try to smile ladies all day even if you feel like Pulling your hair out at the mountain of Mess made by the children or they just won't listen to you.. Or you Just want to sit down and have a cuppa. Really. Try it. A smile a simple smile to yourself or your child or children
.. And wait to see what happens
Next. Nothing. Bloody nothing. No exchange of smiles just temper tantrums.
Well atleast you tried and failed. Atleast you tried and felt an inkling of
Goodness within your heart. Sob sob.
Have a good evening and smile
On.

Screaming kids and pure bliss

So whilst writing this I'm breast feeding! Yeh looks like the only time I can write something or check my phone whilst breast feeding! Oh and two year old in bed! Woppeeee!!
Aah how I enjoy my cup of tea on a night when the toddler is sleeping! No need to check the mug is put somewhere out of reach of those little diddly hands! Just in reach of mine and a nice chocolate bar to go with it. Isn't it just bliss that the two year old isn't yelping for some chocolate. To have a taste or just to eat it all up. Just heaven. This is the moment I look forward to every day .
Anyways... So had a screaming moment with two kids before bed time! NO ROLO! I said and she wanted it and wanted it and wouldn't take NO for an answer!
No I didn't give in! I let her tantrum it out' have a moment or whatever u call it.. Which set baby off! Yep two screaming
Kids!!! I left them screaming to have a moment my self in the toilet.... A peaceful place to be these days...
Fabtastic mummee x

Goodnight x

New mummie? Feels like it all the time

Hi mummies or mummies to be or ' thinking of being a mummy'
Well this is my first blog and I will start by telling you all why I have decided to blog. The main reason being that I'm sure you all can relate .. Is that I am just fed up having the same old routine with the kids.. Wake up ,breakfast, cook, clean, feed, nappy change, feed, nappy change, breast feed and so on and so forth.... So I thought I'd put a little bit of excitement in my life and write a blog! Firstly I will tell you I have two children and they are the most wonderful of children(mmm she says). A girl two years old and a little boy 7 month old. I am on maternity leave for a year and will go back in may!!! Really dreading the ' going back' phase!
It really is hard being a mother and I must say as everyone says I never appreciated my mother until I became a mum! Well Il tell you about my children and my days with the kids .. Hectic days I should say in the next blog. Let me know what you guys think? Are you in the same shoes as I am? Any hints and tips to cope? Until next time my lovelies xxxx .... A mummy to two